tammy are you currently pleased now? Yes I have tried speak with him , absolutely cant reach him. At me or laughs at me, is absolutely never moved by me if I cry he is either angry. We have wondered if he could be a bit psychotic. May be a total sweetheart often. Do Everyone loves him? Yes yet not to your detriment of my psychological wellness. We believe we’ve a tremendously bad relationship.
These episodes happen about once an and last a week month.
i’m pleased as i have always been now, its difficult as being a solitary mum but i dont regret my choice. The thing that is only can recommend is you should do what exactly is perfect for your self as well as your young ones. if you are unhappy, your kids wont be. exp constantly complained that dd should have a suitable household (as him being together) but i wasnt going to spend the rest of my life unhappy in me and. besides i was raised with no dad, and I also think we ended up fine. as well as its perhaps perhaps not although he doesnt exactly much of an effort in my opinion like he cant see dd.
i dont really understand what else to recommend regularhiding.
or theres counselling, but we do not know if that will be of every help
regularhiding, I really feel for your needs and understand what it really is prefer to have your spouse laugh at you if you are crying (my ex did this if you ask me a great deal).
May I simply state that for me these nasty streaks gets to be much more and more regular and it’s also bad for you yourself to feel you must walk on eggshells (or perhaps the kiddies because they will sense a stress floating around).
You can find 2 things that you might do. First, the next time he threatens to keep, phone their bluff and simply tell him “there is the home”. The main reason I state this really is he understands without him and he is playing on this (sorry but the phrase “power trip” comes to mind) that you think you can’t live. Or you might take to asking him why he seems the necessity to be nasty for your requirements, but we have the experience this might either get laughed at or end with him being in a sh**ty mood/blaming all of it you.
Should you believe the only real explanation you will be with him is the fact that you feel you mightn’t cope alone, then please understand that yes you are able to cope alone and that http://datingmentor.org/cs/eharmony-recenze he could be revelling when you look at the proven fact that they can treat you the way he likes as you could not keep him. I’m sure this from very very very first hand connection with my ex. He also thought i really couldn’t cope for a long time) but he got a shock when his power trips backfired on him and I took my DS1 and moved 500 miles to get away from him without him around (so did I.
I’m very sorry if i have overstepped the mark or which you feel i will be being too harsh in your spouse but exactly what he could be doing to you noises nearly the same as just what my ex had been doing if you ask me perhaps not well before he began hitting me
sorry to know this, regularhiding. I think hiddenspirit’s post makes a complete great deal of feeling, unfortunately.
This noises, at the minimum, like psychological punishment in my experience. You noticed any other pattern emerging when you say these episodes occur once a month and last for a week, have? can there be such a thing which generally seems to trigger them?
The worrying thing is that there *is* violence, simply not fond of you – yet. Perchance you have to look for professional assistance. If he will not get, you could test conversing with your gp to begin with.
Absolutely think you have got issue there. Agree totally that towards you or the kids too if it carries on like this he may well get violent. Indicate you keep a diary of incidents and precisely what takes place within the run as much as them. Decide to try writing it from their viewpoint and from yours. Should assist you to workout exactly what their thinking is and whether you’re ready to live along with it all or otherwise not. If he will not talk to you perhaps he will at the least read everything you’ve written and come to realise he requires assistance. For the time being i might form bullying into google and determine you skill to stop your self being bullied. Additionally look up domestic punishment. Allow it to keep on and you should lose the kids’ respect along with your very own self confidence. Wonder if it is a effect to your AF or something like that regular at the job? Whatever, he can not behave in that way. You CAN manage without him!